It was late Dorothy Law Nolte, a lifelong teacher and lecturer in family life education , who wrote, " Children Learn What They Live" in her poem. The little girl must have learnt being manipulative out of the differences observed in her parents. They obviously were communicating but not consistent in speaking the same language in every context as related to the child's affair.If a child grows up in a family where the parents' view of issues are evidently divergent and different, lacking congruency and consistency, the child may tend to be manipulative. How do I mean? A child wants to play outside in the rain, and she goes to the mother but the mom says, "No!" She wears sad, flabby cheeks and drags herself helplessly to her dad, and he says that it's ok you can play in the rain.
We, as parents must find ray area in things that involve creating values in our children. The next time she comes to me, I will tell her," Go and ask your mom; whatever she says, just obey." I struggle with this sometimes because I just want the little damsel to enjoy herself. But whatever indulgence we avail them, we should minimize their "wins" by closing up the consistency gap between us_ dad and mom. I agree with my wife about not raising a spoilt child.Hmmm.
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